Malcom & Barbara Love's Farewell

[trac]

did anyone watch this tonight? i know whats its like to see someone suffer from Alzheimers my mum had it, it is such a cruel,cruel illness, it broke our family,the day my mum died her sister & her family stopped talking to me ,even at the funeral they never spoke and to this day i dont know why,a couple of years ago i was asked by the Alzheimers society to help with their appeal to raise £20,000 for the xmas appeal which i am pleased to say my story of my mum and me helped to raise that amount

 

[affieluver]

i cried nearly the whole way through , what a devestating illness the love and dedication barbara shew was awe inspiring anybody that has a loved one with this awful disease is a real hero in my eyes as it can be so soul destroying to see somebody you love have it x :huggles: Trac a big CONGRATS :cheers: to you some people just dont understand your mum would have been very proud of you im sure

 

[hellybobs]

I couldn't watch it.

My Grandad had it and alnog with my parents I helped care for him and it was terrible to watch him go through that, the stong lovely man who I looked up to.

 

[Trish]

damn i missed it :rant: though i once saw a programme about a man with it and it is a nasty illness,it must be hard for families to cope as they see the illness progress and take more away from a loved one each and every day

so sorry about your family treating you like they have,they arent been nice at all.

my sister did the same thing to my mum when my dad died,i asked why she felt so much anger for mum and she just kept saying because how she treated dad in his last few weeks :wacko: .

my sister eventually became distant from me too,and we havent spoke for over a year now,but i respect her wishes and will keep away.

familys eh

thank god for friends

 

[kell]

I saw it.. What a sad and cruel illness.

His wife was just brilliant, what a remarkable lady..

 

[Joanna]

I watched a bit of it and when they started to go through his diary of symptoms, I couldn't watch any more. I started to convince myself I was displaying the same symptoms(I am terrible at watching medical stuff). I did see Barbara being interviewed onThis Morning yesterday. She is very brave and dedicated lady. It is a cruel disease, frustrating for the sufferer and family

 

[iskanmayals]

My wife has Alzeimers which was diagnosed 3 years ago when she was 56. It is a terrible illness.

Our daughters wanted us to have another dog after a gap of a year or so. I was resistant at first because I knew what lay ahead but they insisted and they were right. Along came Pete our first whippet. Jenny and I have had so much fun together with him --we walk every day,chase rabbits and get him ready for racing. He is pedigree bred but is a very keen racer --he runs as 'For Pete's Sake'

We have had so much support from whippet people that this is an opportunity to thank you all especially Rob and Kay at the Independent WRC who are brilliant with Jenny at all times and also Tracey who helped us at the Champs which helped Jenny have her'best day of the year'

David

 

[Trish]

My wife has Alzeimers which was diagnosed 3 years ago when she was 56. It is a terrible illness.
Our daughters wanted us to have another dog after a gap of a year or so. I was resistant at first because I knew what lay ahead but they insisted and they were right. Along came Pete our first whippet. Jenny and I have had so much fun together with him --we walk every day,chase rabbits and get him ready for racing. He is pedigree bred but is a very keen racer --he runs as 'For Pete's Sake'

We have had so much support from whippet people that this is an opportunity to thank you all especially Rob and Kay at the Independent WRC who are brilliant with Jenny at all times and also Tracey who helped us at the Champs which helped Jenny have her'best day of the year'

David

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glad to hear your whippet as made a difference to your lifes,they are a fantastic breed arent they :wub:

i think your boy was running against mine they all did well in that heat :sweating:

good luck to you all in the future and hope you have many more great years to come :huggles:

 

[Zephyr]

I watched the second half of it - extremely moving, and shocking at the way this awful disease ravaged poor Malcolm's body as well as his mind - he was lterally a skeleton at the end. I thought Barbara was a wonderful and very honest woman, and it was really important to her to educate people about the truth of Alzheimers, which this programme has done very well. My heart goes out to anyone, and their families, living with this terrible illness. :huggles:

 

[Tesa]

I work in a dementia specific respite centre. The people I work with are mostly mid stage dementia. Our facility is unique and we pride ourselves on the bond that is formed between the staff and the guest(client). Not only do we provide relief for the families, so that they can try to have some time to care for themselves ...... we also try to ensure that people are not isolated from the community. Lots of outings as well as in-house activities.

I don't need to tell the families on here what a cruel disease this is, we all know that. I consider myself so lucky to have such a wonderful job, it is a honor and a privilege to spend time with these people. While I feel genuine affection, saddness, and very protective of the people I work with, I can't say I pity them. There is always a sense of loss when they move on from us (usually into a nursing home).

BTW the people that come to us are "guests". We hate the terms "client" "sufferer" and "victim" everyone is treated just as you would treat a guest in your own house. Lots of hugs and laughter at my work :thumbsup:

Just wanted you to see another side of the story.

 

[kitty1972]

It was an incredibly moving documentary. My Father was diagnosed with both Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia a few years ago when he was 57. He says he doesn't do things by halves!

It is very scary for him and us. My Grandfather had it before he died and unfirtunately he had to go into a home towards the end as it came too much for us all and he was becoming a danger to himself and us.

To raise £20k for Alzheimers is an incredible achievement- well done!

 

[Janimal]

A very very moving programme, and a marvellous kind person Malcolms wife was ..such a difficult decision to make when a loved one is going through this.

 

[Ann Glews]

That lady was truly inspiring.

 

[hely]

i taped this last night, and have just finished watching it

very sad to see the out come, Barbara was very strong and it was very moving to see her love for Malcom so strong right up to the end

always new this was a horrid disease, as my great uncle died from it, but didnt realise it was quite that bad

seeing what that poor family had to go through with hardly any help was very uncomfortable to watch

so sad

 

[Janimal]

did anyone watch this tonight? i know whats its like to see someone suffer from Alzheimers my mum had it, it is such a cruel,cruel illness, it broke our family,the day my mum died her sister & her family stopped talking to me ,even at the funeral they never spoke and to this day i dont know why,a couple of years ago i was asked by the Alzheimers society to help with their appeal to raise £20,000 for the xmas appeal which i am pleased to say my story of my mum and me helped to raise that amount

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My heart goes out to you Trac, watching someone die with this illness must be soul destroying.... :huggles: :huggles: dont worry about the others Im sure you did all you could. Well done with the fund raising - that was brilliant. :cheers:

 

[rls22]

I remember the first part of this being on several years ago and I found it heartbreaking to watch then. I couldn't believe it when I saw that it was being shown with updates, as Malcolm had only recently died - I had assumed he had died several years ago.

For Malcolm, Barbara and their family to have dealt with his alzheimers for 15 years in such a dignified and honest way is inspiring. I must admit I was quite naive about the disease and I was horrified to see Malcolm suffering for so long - it is the most cruel disease, which I had no idea could go on for so long.

I cried a lot, but was so relieved for all the family and most of all Malcolm when he died.

 

[trac]

i remember when i was told my mum had Alzheimers i thought right i can fight this

but boy was i wrong this is one powerful illness,it takes so many memories from you, even though my mum died 4 years ago i still cannot remember the good times ,all i remember is the last few years of her life where the roles were reversed & i became her mum & she was the child